Spice It up: A Beginner's Guide to Improving Your Sex Life

Are you trying to spice things up in the bedroom with your partner (or partners)? You don’t have to let your sex life get stale once you’ve “settled” into your relationship. There are plenty of things that you can do to keep things spicy and interesting.

Improving your sex life is fun and exciting. It’s a trial and error process, but let’s face it, the journey is the fun part.

Not sure how to get started? No problem. Keep reading to learn all about satiating your sex drive by changing things up.

Incorporate Toys

Do you already use toys in the bedroom?

For some people, sex toys are intimidating or embarrassing. Others use them for their own private time but feel awkward bringing them into intimate encounters with others.

There’s no reason that you should feel ashamed about sex toys, and there are toys for every relationship. Masturbation is one of the best healthy sex habits and toys can bond you together.

Look online (together) for toys that you’re interested in. Which would be best for using together? Which may work better when you’re alone?

Discover more about sex toys and expand your sexual horizons.

Talk About Kinks (and Try Them)

Do you consider yourself a kinky person?

Our society is, as a whole, fairly sexually repressed. With that in mind, people are getting more and more open about what they’re all about in the bedroom, so why not open up to your partner(s)?

Almost everyone has something that they’re curious about, even if it’s nothing too extreme.

When you’re broaching the topic of kinks, try to have a gentle conversation in a comfortable environment. It might be better to start it outside of the bedroom so your partner doesn’t feel pressured.

Keep in mind that not every kink is applicable to every relationship (or even to reality). You don’t have to act on everything, but find things that you’re both comfortable with and give them a try!

Use Games and Apps

Not sure how to start the conversation about improving your sex life? No problem, there are tools that you can use.

First, there are great apps that can help you out. One of our favorites is Kindu, which is like Tinder for kinks. When you and your partner “match” on the desired kink, you get a notification.

This way you don’t have to feel embarrassed about bringing something up. You both want to try!

You can also play fun games. You can buy them, but you can also DIY your games to make it cheap and easy. You can use sexy dice, Jenga with hidden challenges on each block, or even play a game of truth or dare.

Improving Your Sex Life: The Best Kind of Challenge

Don’t settle for dull and boring sex life. Talk to your partner about spicing things up!

Improving your sex life is a joint effort, but it’s an effort that pays off in a big way. Start the conversation and start having more fun in bed tonight.

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