Okay, now you’re just asking for it

Posted by Lizzie on 03/27/05

I do love her. But I’m not in love with her. Nor with her two brothers or sister. Yes, I have four children. Four children with whom I spend a good part of every day: bathing them, combing their hair, sitting with them while they do their homework, holding them while they weep their tragic tears. But I’m not in love with any of them. I am in love with my husband.

It is his face that inspires in me paroxysms of infatuated devotion. If a good mother is one who loves her child more than anyone else in the world, I am not a good mother. I am in fact a bad mother. I love my husband more than I love my children.

[via an EQUALLY HORRIFED Carrie]

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  1. I’ll see this and raise you a “I hope my son is gay.” (See Salon, as I haven’t the heart to link to it.)

    Comment by Rake — 3/28/2005 @ 4:50 am

  2. Ack. Ack ack ack. I really don’t know what else to say.

    Comment by Sarah — 3/28/2005 @ 9:18 am

  3. When I was a kid I remember asking my mother, “Who do you love more, us [meaning my siblings and me] or Daddy?” She said, “I love you both, in different ways.” This, I think, is the correct, tactful non-answer to that question.

    Comment by Laura — 3/28/2005 @ 9:53 am

  4. My mother always said until she didn’t have to load the dishwasher every night, she didn’t fucking love ANY of us. Seriously, what is up with the weird CONFLATION of child/spouse love? Michael Jackson should get the subpoena out STAT.

    Comment by Old Hag — 3/28/2005 @ 10:31 am

  5. This was the one article I read in yesterday’s paper that I almost posted about. But then, just decided to ‘consider the source.’ Ayelet is dancing on the hairy edge– this one just pissed me off as it felt like yet a new spin on the “drive-by” assaults on mothers (via getupgrrl, http://chezmiscarriage.blogs.com/). I don’t know. I think the woman needs some serious rewiring– she’d be a good case study for a psych course– and I don’t even want to think about the effect on her kids’ development.

    Comment by bluepoppy — 3/28/2005 @ 11:28 am

  6. who is the person speaking in this quote? i can’t tell from the various links.

    Comment by cynthia — 3/28/2005 @ 2:10 pm

  7. ok never mind i got it.

    Comment by cynthia — 3/28/2005 @ 2:13 pm

  8. If not yet seen, check out tmftml’s take.

    Comment by eebmore — 3/28/2005 @ 3:25 pm

  9. is the “modern love” column actively TRYING to be a clearinghouse for the rationalizations of insufferable narcissists? the saddest thing about the ayelet piece was that illustration — the four sad moons hanging bleakly in the background as the sun and earth sucked face in the foreground, glorying in their cosmological paroxysms of infatuation. i shudder to imagine the (justifiably, yet unbearably) self-pitying blogs those four satellites will be writing twenty years from now.

    Comment by lizpenn — 3/29/2005 @ 2:03 pm

  10. If they’re not all in jail for having literally burned their parents alive in the fiery cauldron of their love.

    P.S. I think people who have parents in love are like people who went to supportive boarding schools. They emerge from adolescence UTTERLY UNABLE TO NAVIGATE the real world.

    Comment by Old Hag — 3/29/2005 @ 3:30 pm

  11. A bunch of pictures of Ayelet and Mikey staring into each other’s eyes. I’m sorry.

    Comment by lindsay — 3/29/2005 @ 5:25 pm

  12. One question: why does this all seem too close to a Lifetime TV movie starring Sally Field and David Birney?

    Comment by Ed — 3/29/2005 @ 6:33 pm

  13. Why did she have kids?

    Comment by Rachel Cohen — 3/29/2005 @ 11:54 pm

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    Comment by store — 10/4/2005 @ 11:31 pm

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    Comment by win — 10/11/2005 @ 6:02 am

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